Grief...

Why is it that only when we are grieving we energise our soul with the people that love us the most? why and how do we forget their existence and their positive influence on our life? why do we take that for granted up until we reach the point of grief?

How good it feels to be unconditionally loved...no strings attached...no ifs no buts...no effort no limit...How alone do we feel all along, until we realize and accept that we are in a state of grief? Only then we reach out for our mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, best friends...or even good friends. And most importantly only then we reach out to ourselves...Wouldn't be much easier to just reach out BEFORE we get to that state of grief? wouldn't every break up, every bad news, every lay off, every break down be much soother while having all that energy from the people that truly love us all along?

Why,oh why, do we insist on seeking inner peace from the ones that disrupted this peace in the first place? Why we long for their attention, love and care while we know we will not get it? Why do we need their benediction to stand up on our feet again, while all they do is put us down, intentionally or in most cases unintentionally?

I was reading a friend's blog about family...he concludes: I propose a paradigm shift. Allocating the most amount of energy to servicing the individuals who needn’t be impressed or won over by you. The good hearted few who will always be genuinely accepting of you and your bullshit. And to a varying degree, fuck everyone else

i am passing through a rough period, and his blog was a wake up call. i had came to the conclusion that something was missing in this equation, my equation. there was an unbalance somewhere, a miscalculation. i have lost something along the way. Connecting to one s self is definitely part of the equation, but also connecting to your people, your comfort zone is another important aspect. Good thing is, you know they re always there. always always and always. no doubt.

So...i reiterate in my own simple words...love those who love u unconditionally, unconditionally. Remember them more, put your effort and invest your time with them, let them be first on ur priority list. Everyone else can just... u know what:) Whenever u are feeling like u are drowning, instead of longing for those who drowned you, pick up the phone and call your family, your cousin, or a friend that is NOT on your last call list. they are the people that love you the most, care about you the most, know you the most, stand by you the most, wake up for u the most, even if they were fast asleep and tell you: 'no you didnt wake me up, im still up'...and therefore, they will put up with your non-sense the most without judging you.

Choose your grieving buddies wisely my friends...For if u did not, you ll find yourself grieving alone...

furaha x