Why is it that only when we are grieving we energise our soul with the people that love us the most? why and how do we forget their existence and their positive influence on our life? why do we take that for granted up until we reach the point of grief?
How good it feels to be unconditionally loved...no strings attached...no ifs no buts...no effort no limit...How alone do we feel all along, until we realize and accept that we are in a state of grief? Only then we reach out for our mothers, fathers, sisters, brothers, best friends...or even good friends. And most importantly only then we reach out to ourselves...Wouldn't be much easier to just reach out BEFORE we get to that state of grief? wouldn't every break up, every bad news, every lay off, every break down be much soother while having all that energy from the people that truly love us all along?
Why,oh why, do we insist on seeking inner peace from the ones that disrupted this peace in the first place? Why we long for their attention, love and care while we know we will not get it? Why do we need their benediction to stand up on our feet again, while all they do is put us down, intentionally or in most cases unintentionally?
I was reading a friend's blog about family...he concludes: I propose a paradigm shift. Allocating the most amount of energy to servicing the individuals who needn’t be impressed or won over by you. The good hearted few who will always be genuinely accepting of you and your bullshit. And to a varying degree, fuck everyone else
i am passing through a rough period, and his blog was a wake up call. i had came to the conclusion that something was missing in this equation, my equation. there was an unbalance somewhere, a miscalculation. i have lost something along the way. Connecting to one s self is definitely part of the equation, but also connecting to your people, your comfort zone is another important aspect. Good thing is, you know they re always there. always always and always. no doubt.
So...i reiterate in my own simple words...love those who love u unconditionally, unconditionally. Remember them more, put your effort and invest your time with them, let them be first on ur priority list. Everyone else can just... u know what:) Whenever u are feeling like u are drowning, instead of longing for those who drowned you, pick up the phone and call your family, your cousin, or a friend that is NOT on your last call list. they are the people that love you the most, care about you the most, know you the most, stand by you the most, wake up for u the most, even if they were fast asleep and tell you: 'no you didnt wake me up, im still up'...and therefore, they will put up with your non-sense the most without judging you.
Choose your grieving buddies wisely my friends...For if u did not, you ll find yourself grieving alone...
furaha x
Monday, August 29, 2011
Wednesday, August 24, 2011
Stolen away...
for all of us that live in big cities...do not underestimate the power of big cities...
i was speaking with a childhood friend of mine...catching up...exchanging stories (always always feels good with childhood friends).
so she asks: how s london? 'It's good', i said. It s where i want to be, where i left everything for, where i ve always wanted to come back, where i ve built a vision in, where i want to have a career and personal growth...
then she said something that made me think, 'Do not underestimate the power of big cities'.
And i stopped to think that i ve been in London for just about a year now. What changed? What did this city do to me?
Well, i will spare u the details of my life. but funny the things i realised. funny how time slipped away...funny how this big city stole me away. funny how everything changed...so i thought.
Yes its a hub. Big cities are a hub. and no matter what u do, there s always something u are missing on, there is always more to do, and less time to do it. There is no time to breath even on a sunday morning. You always feel the pressure of not doing enough or not doing well, or WELL + ENOUGH. You always feel you are well behind plan, be it work wise or personal wise. So energy wise...we are all drained in big cities like london, or even small ones like beirut.
My message here is to STOP and THINK. think of how is or how can the big city u live in steel you away? how can it at the same time energise u sooo much and dis-energise u even more. and most importantly how did u reach the point where u lost touch with oneself? Yes, everything has changed, but i am still the same...you are still the same.
The problem is, in big cities like that we focus so much on the changes. on how well we are doing at work, how well this is good to our career, how, much we learn and get out of the city. how every step every move is an experience. even getting in the tube everyday, trust me is one of the biggest experiences that i never thought i d learn so much from! but what we always forget to do is to focus on what has NOT changed...funny how things are still the same.
to win the battle of big cities, one must focus on what have not changed...while embrace all the changes happening. Only then, what was not WELL+ENOUGH will be good enough and doing MORE will be an option not a draining necessity.
furaha x
i was speaking with a childhood friend of mine...catching up...exchanging stories (always always feels good with childhood friends).
so she asks: how s london? 'It's good', i said. It s where i want to be, where i left everything for, where i ve always wanted to come back, where i ve built a vision in, where i want to have a career and personal growth...
then she said something that made me think, 'Do not underestimate the power of big cities'.
And i stopped to think that i ve been in London for just about a year now. What changed? What did this city do to me?
Well, i will spare u the details of my life. but funny the things i realised. funny how time slipped away...funny how this big city stole me away. funny how everything changed...so i thought.
Yes its a hub. Big cities are a hub. and no matter what u do, there s always something u are missing on, there is always more to do, and less time to do it. There is no time to breath even on a sunday morning. You always feel the pressure of not doing enough or not doing well, or WELL + ENOUGH. You always feel you are well behind plan, be it work wise or personal wise. So energy wise...we are all drained in big cities like london, or even small ones like beirut.
My message here is to STOP and THINK. think of how is or how can the big city u live in steel you away? how can it at the same time energise u sooo much and dis-energise u even more. and most importantly how did u reach the point where u lost touch with oneself? Yes, everything has changed, but i am still the same...you are still the same.
The problem is, in big cities like that we focus so much on the changes. on how well we are doing at work, how well this is good to our career, how, much we learn and get out of the city. how every step every move is an experience. even getting in the tube everyday, trust me is one of the biggest experiences that i never thought i d learn so much from! but what we always forget to do is to focus on what has NOT changed...funny how things are still the same.
to win the battle of big cities, one must focus on what have not changed...while embrace all the changes happening. Only then, what was not WELL+ENOUGH will be good enough and doing MORE will be an option not a draining necessity.
furaha x
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