Solace

Recently, i have endured a situation. im not really sure if the terms endured and situation go together. but that is the best i can describe it. i dont really know what it was, how it happened, the things that led to that situation, the outcomes of it, the reasons to it...did i analyse it? oh yes...i've tossed it around countless amount of times in my head. did i reach a conclusion? no i didnt...

did i DO something about it?

that is the real question...and no...i didnt...why? well partly because of an advice of a friend saying:

'You will find that throughout these situations, the only thing you re left with is how you acted and reacted. In the long term, you will find solace in the maturity of your reactions. It will empower you, trust me.'

I guess i ve always underestimated the power of the 'maturity of my actions and reaction', as my friend described it. Often, many different factors play a role in how we respond to different situations. We always end up calling when we know we shouldnt have, we always end up sending emails saying stuff we wished we didnt, we always laugh when we shouldnt, cry when we dont want to, get angry, be too soft, look too emotion(al)/(less)...and we rewind and wish we ve done this or done that. its normal...
or we toughen up and do the 'right' thing, which takes alot of energy and effort from our part. we ll be thinking it over and over and we would still have this tiny bit of doubt if we REALLY are doing the right thing. and eventually what took alot of effort to do, with time, will become the norm and we'll be fine.

but...i ve found a new way of solace. a much easier and quicker one. works like magic! try it... all it takes is to first identify the mature way to act and react. then to be consciously aware of how good u feel for doing the right thing. to channel ur thoughts towards u, and the effects ur reactions and actions are having upon u. channel ur thoughts to that, away from what u really *want* to do. its a matter of focus. because sometimes, even when doing the right thing, we keep thinking of the desired action which drains us either way! so find the strength in u and embrace it. be proud of it. let it empower u. as i trusted my friend, trust me...it will empower u:)

furaha x